Some Truth About a Guy and Some Skanks

I love reading about, and listening to, success “gurus.” The Tim Ferriss podcast is probably my all-time favorite, although the ladies from Being Boss are growing on me. I love Tony Robbins and will always have a soft spot for Joyce Meyers. I recently finished The 10x Rule and enjoyed it immensely. I listened to it at 1.5 speed and stayed pumped for a week. It is written by Grant Cardone. He is brash, in your face, and I liked him immediately.

One of the great things about being an adult is that you can like someone and not agree with everything they stand for. While I agree with, and appreciate, Mr. Cardone’s take no prisoners attitude, I feel he could be more responsible with his platform. He recently did a livestream on Facebook where he answered questions with the first thing that popped out of his mouth. Some questions were insightful, but some were softballs, such as “boxers or briefs?”

Along this same line, someone tossed out, “Angelina Jolie or Jessica Biel?” To which Cardone replied, “You wouldn’t be happy with either skank but I’d go Biel.” I’m sure Ms. Biel is suitably flattered. I, however, was taken aback that two of the savviest businesswomen in Hollywood were reduced to a word that Webster’s defines as slang, disparaging 1:  a person and especially a woman of low or sleazy character. I saw the post on LinkedIn three days ago. It has been niggling the back of my mind, so I decided to see if anyone else had taken issue with the statement. Out of the 20 comments on LinkedIn, not one called Cardone out on his blatant misogyny. Now, I’m fairly certain that his fan base is not heavily populated by feminists, but certainly, I’m not the only non-testicle bearing person following his career.

So, here is my answer to the slight, which I feel is not solely focused on the ladies in question, but all women of power who dare rise up and attain a high level of success. As I intend to count myself among them, one day, I speak for myself and my fellow ass-kicking sisters.

Jessica Biel – the winner in our little face-off

A former child actor, Ms. Biel made the almost impossible leap to adult star without public meltdowns or repeated high-profile trips to rehab/jail. She maintains a celebrity marriage to Justin Timberlake, managing to mostly stay out of the tabloids. Her film career slowed down after the birth of their son. She recently opened a child-themed restaurant, Au Fudge.

(low or sleazy character?)

 

Angelina Jolie – our sad loser

Actor, Filmmaker, Director, and Humanitarian

Winner – Academy Award

Winner – Two Screen Actors Guild Awards

Winner – Three Golden Globes

Highest Paid Woman in Hollywood

UNHCR Goodwill Ambassador

Promoted – To the rank of Special Envoy to High Commissioner António Guterres, the first to take on such a position within the organization.

Received – Jean Hersholt Humanitarian Award

Received – honorary damehood of the Order of St Michael and St George

Member – Council on Foreign Relations

I’ll stop here, because it literally just goes on and on. So, if Ms. Jolie, who has reached the absolute pinnacle of financial and humanitarian success, as well as widely being considered one of the most beautiful women in the world, is tossed off with a dismissive “skank,” one begins to think there is something more at play than just a little playful male banter. Is Mr. Cardone intimidated by these women and therefore feels the subconscious need to tear them down, or does he actually have no respect for successful women…or women in general, or is he a lovable goof, who just says dumb shit, but we can forgive him because he does so much other great stuff. I don’t know.

I like to think the best of people. I hope that Mr. Cardone doesn’t realize the power his platform gives him and the power he has to lift all people up to greater success is also the power to tear down. His own personal success, no matter how great it is, will be stifled until he embraces everyone willing to 10x, not just his loyal male following. I hope that day comes soon. Until then, I’ll continue to take massive action and reap the rewards. We can all take a minute to remember to lift others up with our words and not tear them down.

6 Comments

  1. Valerie Pierce on June 26, 2017 at 9:52 pm

    I love your headline, it’s what drew me in to read. I too love that being an adult gives me the ability to take knowledge that serves me and leave what does not serve me for someone else to find. I have been plugged into Grant Cardone since I discovered him and everyone that I know that goes through his training take their own game up a couple of notches. He is extremely misogynistic, across the board. In that aspect, he is no respecter of females. I’m not sure why he lumped biel in with jolie but I do know that he is very much an advocate for the family unit. The family unit is ran sort of like a business in that everyone knows what their job is and what the goals are and they get there together. Yes Jolie has accomplished a lot of very good things with her power, she has also caused her share of hurt and harm (as have I). I also agree with you about Cardone excluding like 50% of the 10x population. I do like though, that his message is making a dent in an otherwise braindead generation. He training has helped a couple of people I know (one of them a brilliant young lady) refocus their life and goals and even kick a drug addiction. For me, I’m glad I don’t take all of his teaching to heart. I take what I need. And this pretty lady could be a blog post that blows up!!! the headline and the content, provokes thinking and conversation! Great post!

    • April on June 27, 2017 at 12:30 am

      I totally agree with about 75% of what he says, for sure. But, until everyone is included on the trip to the top, success is incomplete.

  2. Christina on June 27, 2017 at 7:28 pm

    Thank you for this. Comments like that really need to be called out. I’d have to listen to the whole podcast for reference but what if someone asked him, “Brad Pitt or Justin Timberlake?” Would he throw out the same slang or would he instantly discuss their talent and business acumen? If that is the first thing that comes to your mind when you are asked about 2 women is their desirability, then, out loud say it in a public forum discussing business, you need to check yourself.

    Now if these were a group of men, hanging in a bar, drinking a beer… okay, I get it.

    It’s all about your audience.

    • April on June 27, 2017 at 9:23 pm

      It isn’t the end of the world, but it bothered me…and I have an underused blog, so….

  3. April on May 12, 2018 at 12:49 am

    Update: 5/12/18

    Noticing an unusual spike of traffic, I looked at some of my analytics and realized that Mr. Cardone issued a public apology for the quote mentioned in this blog post and for unintentionally offending women. By the time I found out about it, he had already taken the blog post on his site down, and also the one he had reposted on Medium. I did find a copy on Steemit. You can read it here, as long as it is still up: https://steemit.com/dating/@grantcardone/angelina-jolie-or-jessica-biel

  4. Tom Nguyen on May 12, 2018 at 9:00 pm

    At least those “skanks” have a Wikipedia page, and they probably have “10x” the amount of money that this dude has. Not only that, they don’t have to brag about it on their websites or social media page. Why did he have to call them skanks?

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