I love reading about, and listening to, success “gurus.” The Tim Ferriss podcast is probably my all-time favorite, although the ladies from Being Boss are growing on me. I love Tony Robbins and will always have a soft spot for Joyce Meyers. I recently finished The 10x Rule and enjoyed it immensely. I listened to it at 1.5 speed and stayed pumped for a week. It is written by Grant Cardone. He is brash, in your face, and I liked him immediately.
One of the great things about being an adult is that you can like someone and not agree with everything they stand for. While I agree with, and appreciate, Mr. Cardone’s take no prisoners attitude, I feel he could be more responsible with his platform. He recently did a livestream on Facebook where he answered questions with the first thing that popped out of his mouth. Some questions were insightful, but some were softballs, such as “boxers or briefs?”
Along this same line, someone tossed out, “Angelina Jolie or Jessica Biel?” To which Cardone replied, “You wouldn’t be happy with either skank but I’d go Biel.” I’m sure Ms. Biel is suitably flattered. I, however, was taken aback that two of the savviest businesswomen in Hollywood were reduced to a word that Webster’s defines as slang, disparaging 1: a person and especially a woman of low or sleazy character. I saw the post on LinkedIn three days ago. It has been niggling the back of my mind, so I decided to see if anyone else had taken issue with the statement. Out of the 20 comments on LinkedIn, not one called Cardone out on his blatant misogyny. Now, I’m fairly certain that his fan base is not heavily populated by feminists, but certainly, I’m not the only non-testicle bearing person following his career.
So, here is my answer to the slight, which I feel is not solely focused on the ladies in question, but all women of power who dare rise up and attain a high level of success. As I intend to count myself among them, one day, I speak for myself and my fellow ass-kicking sisters.
Jessica Biel – the winner in our little face-off
A former child actor, Ms. Biel made the almost impossible leap to adult star without public meltdowns or repeated high-profile trips to rehab/jail. She maintains a celebrity marriage to Justin Timberlake, managing to mostly stay out of the tabloids. Her film career slowed down after the birth of their son. She recently opened a child-themed restaurant, Au Fudge.
(low or sleazy character?)
Angelina Jolie – our sad loser
Actor, Filmmaker, Director, and Humanitarian
Winner – Academy Award
Winner – Two Screen Actors Guild Awards
Winner – Three Golden Globes
Highest Paid Woman in Hollywood
Received – Jean Hersholt Humanitarian Award
Received – honorary damehood of the Order of St Michael and St George
Member – Council on Foreign Relations
I’ll stop here, because it literally just goes on and on. So, if Ms. Jolie, who has reached the absolute pinnacle of financial and humanitarian success, as well as widely being considered one of the most beautiful women in the world, is tossed off with a dismissive “skank,” one begins to think there is something more at play than just a little playful male banter. Is Mr. Cardone intimidated by these women and therefore feels the subconscious need to tear them down, or does he actually have no respect for successful women…or women in general, or is he a lovable goof, who just says dumb shit, but we can forgive him because he does so much other great stuff. I don’t know.
I like to think the best of people. I hope that Mr. Cardone doesn’t realize the power his platform gives him and the power he has to lift all people up to greater success is also the power to tear down. His own personal success, no matter how great it is, will be stifled until he embraces everyone willing to 10x, not just his loyal male following. I hope that day comes soon. Until then, I’ll continue to take massive action and reap the rewards. We can all take a minute to remember to lift others up with our words and not tear them down.